Much discussions have been going on amongst the age group Between 38 - 55 years old with regard to their relationships.
This is an age group that is entering a new phase in their lives with regard to their ambitions , family life and inner self.
Its at this age that they realise they are reaching a point where they have accomplished their dream job, or they have not and have given up hope that they can ever recover at this age.
Its at this stage they have outgrown their partners, and either live in a marriage/ relationship that serve no purpose to their well being because they are not emotionally secure to live alone, and therefore they waste the valuable life they have been given to keep the social status or it becomes a token of live and just be....
Its at this stage they start contemplating the thoughts of being alone, because the kids are slowly moving on with their lives and now they start feeling helpless because the family routine of doing , fetching , feeding and cleaning up behind the kids are stopping .Time then becomes their worst enemy because nothing can fulfill the duties towards a loved one, but they not going to be around for long now...
How do we actually remedy the mind set of a person who was a husband/ wife/ parent/ adult always in control of life, steering everyone, being a pillar to the family, and now has to reset their minds of entering a new phase in their lives.
Just as you started crawling, walking , running , talking, and going through the different stages of baby, toddler, teenager, adult, this too is a new stage which you must learn to adjust your mind, body and soul too.
People who come from their 30's in 40's going to 50's without a soul searching experience, clearly have missed the boat.
if you have not changed physically, mentally or emotionally during this phase then you have not " Found your inner self " yet.
This is an era where you must look within yourself , make the changes within your own soul through Prayers, meditation and solitude..
People often see relationships at this age where they are stuck, Why would you want to waste your life in a relationship that does not make you smile each morning, that does not bring out the best in you, that does not lift your spirits up when you down, Why waste your last years on this valuable earth just being....You came into this world alone to live, eat and pray, so why attach yourself to unhappiness. Married couples should really take each others trust and demand changes within the marriage, say that you have been living together, 10, 15, 15 years together, lets recreate ourselves, we not kids anymore, we can do whatever we want to do, so lets live each moment with joy, this is our last years together ...lets make the best years count...( Trust me this is the best years, because you can do whatever you like and besides you too old to be told what to do...)
Those entering new relationships, this is the best time to choose people who is different from you, different culture, different country, different ethnicity, because at this stage in your life the baby booming season is over, its all about you and your partner/wife/companion. This is a time where you can explore new things, new people, new countries, The world is your oyster, its just waiting for you to open it and find the pearls of life.
Now we all have to change the way we date in 2016...
Technology is the new heart...
In order to have a brilliant relationship at this age in this era is changing the way you communicate ( this is more for the men wink wink ) Learn how to communicate. Woman her verbal beings and men are physical beings. To men as long as you have your phone with you they think it ends there, noooo, the phone is there to communicate with not an accessory... send those 1 sec messages of I miss you .., thats it, thats all it it takes to keep your lady happy for the day, infact she will keep looking at that one message all day until she hears from you again. Women, women, please note not all men this age have learnt the art of using the phone to express their love to you, In their minds they expect you to just "know" that you in their hearts ( physical love ) If you expecting at this age that they going to learn to multitask their lives with technology love then you will have to wait until they 75...., unless you start throwing all "your toys" at them and demand attention from them when they apart then perhaps you will get the point accross to them...
This is an age group that is entering a new phase in their lives with regard to their ambitions , family life and inner self.
Its at this age that they realise they are reaching a point where they have accomplished their dream job, or they have not and have given up hope that they can ever recover at this age.
Its at this stage they have outgrown their partners, and either live in a marriage/ relationship that serve no purpose to their well being because they are not emotionally secure to live alone, and therefore they waste the valuable life they have been given to keep the social status or it becomes a token of live and just be....
Its at this stage they start contemplating the thoughts of being alone, because the kids are slowly moving on with their lives and now they start feeling helpless because the family routine of doing , fetching , feeding and cleaning up behind the kids are stopping .Time then becomes their worst enemy because nothing can fulfill the duties towards a loved one, but they not going to be around for long now...
How do we actually remedy the mind set of a person who was a husband/ wife/ parent/ adult always in control of life, steering everyone, being a pillar to the family, and now has to reset their minds of entering a new phase in their lives.
Just as you started crawling, walking , running , talking, and going through the different stages of baby, toddler, teenager, adult, this too is a new stage which you must learn to adjust your mind, body and soul too.
People who come from their 30's in 40's going to 50's without a soul searching experience, clearly have missed the boat.
if you have not changed physically, mentally or emotionally during this phase then you have not " Found your inner self " yet.
This is an era where you must look within yourself , make the changes within your own soul through Prayers, meditation and solitude..
People often see relationships at this age where they are stuck, Why would you want to waste your life in a relationship that does not make you smile each morning, that does not bring out the best in you, that does not lift your spirits up when you down, Why waste your last years on this valuable earth just being....You came into this world alone to live, eat and pray, so why attach yourself to unhappiness. Married couples should really take each others trust and demand changes within the marriage, say that you have been living together, 10, 15, 15 years together, lets recreate ourselves, we not kids anymore, we can do whatever we want to do, so lets live each moment with joy, this is our last years together ...lets make the best years count...( Trust me this is the best years, because you can do whatever you like and besides you too old to be told what to do...)
Those entering new relationships, this is the best time to choose people who is different from you, different culture, different country, different ethnicity, because at this stage in your life the baby booming season is over, its all about you and your partner/wife/companion. This is a time where you can explore new things, new people, new countries, The world is your oyster, its just waiting for you to open it and find the pearls of life.
Now we all have to change the way we date in 2016...
Technology is the new heart...
In order to have a brilliant relationship at this age in this era is changing the way you communicate ( this is more for the men wink wink ) Learn how to communicate. Woman her verbal beings and men are physical beings. To men as long as you have your phone with you they think it ends there, noooo, the phone is there to communicate with not an accessory... send those 1 sec messages of I miss you .., thats it, thats all it it takes to keep your lady happy for the day, infact she will keep looking at that one message all day until she hears from you again. Women, women, please note not all men this age have learnt the art of using the phone to express their love to you, In their minds they expect you to just "know" that you in their hearts ( physical love ) If you expecting at this age that they going to learn to multitask their lives with technology love then you will have to wait until they 75...., unless you start throwing all "your toys" at them and demand attention from them when they apart then perhaps you will get the point accross to them...
